An otherwise great wife has occasional one-night stands?

Please note that this is hypothetical. An otherwise great wife--caring, kind, helpful, supportive, etc.--reveals that over the years of the marriage that she has had occasional one-night stands. She loves her husband and does not want to leave or end the marriage and had no feeling for the other men but instead was fulfilling some personal need. Is she a bad wife or still a good one? Can her otherwise good qualities outweigh these acts or not? Opinions please.|||In my book that's still bad. These descriptions you use-- "caring, kind, helpful, supportive"-- if she is out sleeping with other men, she does not actually represent these things. To my way of thinking, once you begin tolerating these "exceptions" to your vows, the integrity of the marriage will begin to crumble.





Now, having said all that, only the couples in these kinds of relationships can judge whether this behavior is acceptable. If they're both okay with it, then I guess it works for them.|||Like it or not, there IS a difference between love and sex. It sounds like she is trying to be sincere, and if the husband thinks he can move past this, and loves her enough to give it a try, there is no reason to expect it can work out. As for being a good or bad wife, I suppose that it is only the husband's opinion that matters. And everyone has bad qualities, and good ones. And everyone has different levels of tolerance. The trick is for two people to find in each other someone whose bad traits don't bother them too badly and whose good traits delight them.|||One night stand and caring do not go together!!! If she cared about him, she would tell him the truth about how she feels!!! maybe he wants a one night stand too!!! Its not the action that makes it wrong, ITS LYING ABOUT IT!!!|||If she didn't tell her man about this in my eyes it is cheating. A honest wife would tell her man if she has 'needs', and maybe they find a solution together.|||Wife with addiction.