Tuesday, September 27, 2011

How do girls know they are in love - physical equivalent to guys being able to "go all night"?

A guy knows he's in love if he can have sex with a girl 4+ times in one night. It's totally psychological - I've been with many girls and this has only happened with one girl I had a truly deep connection with. Please tell me if there is a female equivalent to this physical experience.|||For women, it's the opposite -- here, from the very famous book, The Second Sex:





We have seen that the act of love requires of woman profound


self-abandonment; she bathes in a passive languor; with closed


eyes, anonymous, lost, she feels as if borne by waves, swept


away in a storm, shrouded in darknesss; darkness of the flesh,


of the womb, of the grave. Annihilated, when the man moves from


her, she finds herself back on earth, on a bed, in the light;


she again has a name, a face: she is one vanquished, prey,


object.





This is the moment when love becomes a necessity. As when the


child, after weaning, seeks the reassuring gaze of its parents,


so must a woman feel, through the man's loving contemplation


that she is, after all, still at one with the Whole from which


her flesh is now painfully detached. She is seldom wholly


satisfied even if she has felt the orgasm, she is not set


completely free from the spell of her flesh; her desire


continues in the form of affection . In giving her pleasure,


the man increases her attachment, he does not liberate her. As


for him, he no longer desires her: but she will not pardon this


momentary indifference unless he has dedicated to her a timeless


and absolute emotion.





Simone de Beauvoir gets it absolutely right.





Incidentally, this is why so many modern women hate men - they have these transcendent emotions after sex, and they look over, and there's just this idiot jerk there, and they feel stupid,and they blame the guy.





So much better to wait.........

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